Vancouver – There’s an emerging trend in bachelorette parties that is far from a tea-and-crumpets celebration.
In fact, the only hot tea involved is as a training prop in an educational session in Vera Zyla’s oral pleasure seminar.
More and more women are booking private, pre-wedding seminars through Zyla’s Vancouver store, The Art of Loving, to learn the how-tos of oral sex, having a good orgasm and stripping for your lover.
She has hosted dozens of parties for women ranging from virgins to the more experienced. The course on oral sex techniques seems to be one of the most popular.
“I believe it’s because there are a number of challenges that are presented,” she said.
“I ask these women in class: ‘Why do you think women find it so challenging,’ and they start sharing.”
Zyla said the women are simply looking for strategies to be better at it and to add it to their repertoire, hoping to use it to prolong a marriage.
‘Need to mix it up’
“If you have meat and potatoes for dinner every night, you’re going to get bored of that.. ..You need to mix it up.”
Zyla said at first, some women are nervous about attending, but a few quips from the crowd can make the night hilarious.
“They tend to turn it into a little wine and cheese thing … everybody gets loosened up. It’s a really fun evening.”
Anna Von Frances, 28, took a similar oral sex education seminar in Toronto and thinks more women should do the same.
“It’s fun to get together with your girlfriends and laugh about a taboo subject, then find out it’s not all that taboo.”
She said the course helped her get familiar with the male anatomy.
Von Frances admitted she was nervous about sitting in a room with a bunch of her girlfriends learning to put a condom-clad banana in her mouth.
But she said it was nothing like that. “(The instructor) did a lot of handouts about where everything’s located on a man’s member, how sensitive it really is.”
Zyla demonstrates to her classes with a prop and notes accessories women can buy or make at home.
“For example they could make a hot drink and put it in a thermos … then leave the hot liquid in your mouth, so your mouth is really toasty warm.”